Before The Person :: Relationship Goals (Part 1)


What we bout to start a series, that’s about to be awesome. I
Think this is one of those things that
God wanted to happen in this timing. I’m
talking about
relationships and
We titled this message relationship goals because we know that’s something that is in popular culture
And we see different things all the pictures that that we saw earlier people say oh
that’s the kind of relationship that I want and that’s what I
Want from my life eventually and all these things so I thought it would be appropriate for us to do a series about
relationship goals
and
we’re going to start from the beginning and we’re going to go all the way through this thing you do not want to miss the
Next six weeks because this series
We’re going to talk so real some stuff has not been said in a church you’ve ever been in before
But we’re going to say that right here. Oh
Because I really do believe that relationships are
Being defined more by Pop culture and what the world says
then what the word of God says and
Because many people don’t teach it with balance and with understanding and with wisdom it just seems more easy
To go with what everybody else is doing, but I really do believe that
God is going to give wisdom and revelation through this series
And I am ready for us to start being an example of what relationships should look like
these happiest hours
No, no, but honestly when people think of relationships. They don’t look at the church
When they think about relationships they don’t think about Christians
When they think about relationships, they don’t think about God’s people
And there’s a reason and honestly if we be real real about many believers have failed that relationship
Many people save sanctify love. God something clapping all day and die lonely
Preach to the Nation’s have no Friends. I
Mean if we’re honest with it
Many of us have had more
sexual relationships than we have had cars
You get a new one of those every three to five years
Let’s be honest
because if we’re not then we never ever get to see we think that’s normal and
What I came to tell you is that some of these things that we’ve been doing that I’ve done okay?
So don’t visit all he done came back. He judging up no I?
Did it but it was because nobody told me they never showed me they never laid out for me
what is the biblical model of
Relationship, how are we supposed to go out normal I suppose Si for America. I know I’m supposed to be in a monogamous relationship
I know I’m supposed to date court. Have a front what which one?
tell me how
show me how
Show me what the word says about it. So we don’t do all of that in this series today is an introduction
because I’ve been stopped up spiritually for five weeks and
This one practice could be for hours easy, but it’s going to be 40 minutes this morning amen and so
I want to just kind of set the table for what this thing looks like a man
Why don’t you get out your notes and and get up your bibles right now? I want to look at this from just the terminology
relationshipgoals everybody say relationship goals
Say it one more time like you many relations
Okay, so how many would say they have some relationship goals like there’s something that you desire and related people scared to lift a handed
Like I don’t know
Okay, how many people have some relationship goals friends family?
Married you have goals in your relationship. I really think a lot of people understand the relationship part of it
They understand that they want to be connected with somebody they understand that they want to walk and talk with somebody
But the goal part, I think is a little
Misconstrued or a little distorted and I want to look at the definition of gold, okay? A goal is the result or
Achievement towards which an effort is directed?
So effort has to be directed to reach a goal
It’s the aim or it’s the end now
I look at this because no matter if you’re single, you’re married you’re divorced. It’s complicated
You’re a stalker. I don’t care what level of relationship that you are in right now
God wants you to have successful relationships this whole series is so that you can win at
relationships
But many of us don’t have our Aim
Directed when it comes to relationship. We take whatever comes
We do whatever is comfortable
But we don’t have aim and if you don’t have an you cannot have a goal you cannot have
relationship goals if you’re not aimed in the direction of what God has for you and
I saw a video earlier this week that Kinda accurately depicts. What most of us look like in
Relationship I want you to take a look at this real quick
Target is over here
Now as funny as that is isn’t that what many of our relationships look like I?
think he might be the one I
Thought that was my business partner I
really want to hang with this group of people and
we’re not aimed at anything so and we’re blinded by what culture says and so we shoot at everything and
What happens is people and things get damaged when we do not have clear aim in what God wants us to have in relationship?
Many of us are products of people shooting and trying to have relationship without proper Aim?
proper goals
Things that were the standard for our lives that were set by God
so I want us to go to the beginning today because it’s one of those things that I start to look at that a
Target needs to be standing still and
if you’re using culture as
The barometer of what relationships should look like that’s a moving Target
like
Relationship says marriage looks like this in one decade then it looks like this and another decade
It’s we’re supposed to be like this. This is what deigning now
We have Netflix and chill you don’t even have to be committed to anybody to cross the line into private areas
Y’all came to be fake this morning
What I came to do is dispel the enemy that hides in darkness and to bring light to every person that’s listening
What God wants for every single one of us is for us to have relationship?
but we have to have a goal that is aimed at something that is stable and
Let me submit to you that the only thing that is unchangeable unknown being unwavering is the word of God
See, Isaiah tells us like this in Isaiah 40 it says that that that the the grass will wither and the flower will fade
But the word of God will stand ever
lasting
And so I’m just asking you for six weeks, I know
That you have the cardassians have taught you a lot about relationships
Like I know
And I and I know that you have blogs that you listen to and people
but I’m asking you for six weeks can we let the standard of
relationships be the word of God and
Can we see?
what possibly may happen in our hearts our minds and our lives if
We would follow a biblical model of relationships instead of our
Feelings when it comes to relationships is that okay? Okay? So let’s go all the way to the beginning genesis, okay?
Let’s go to Genesis because in Genesis is the first time that we see relationship, okay?
I can’t really go into it right now because that’d be a whole nother message
But before there was ever a person there was already relationship
The father the son and the holy spirit, they were three equal personalities in one there was already relationship
That’s why when when they came at the beginning, they said let us make man in our image
That was a conversation that was relationship that was happening
But I just want us to focus on us for a second and I want to show you something
I was talking to my friend Charles this week and and we started discussing
Something and we found something really really cool in the bible we found the first time
That God said it’s not good I
Mean the very first time you know you tell your children. I know no, that’s not good you
Tell people uh don’t eat that
That’s not good. We found the first time God said it wasn’t good, so
Let me help you paint this picture
Genesis Chapter 1 verse 3. God says let there be light creates light and he says it’s good
Okay, then we go to Genesis
Chapter 1 verse 10 and he makes water and land and after he makes water and land. What does he say it’s good, okay?
Y’all help me then he makes vegetation broccoli spinach kale
All of those things and then he looks over and says that is going to make some good soul food, and he said it’s good
Then verse 18. He says let me go ahead and make a differentiation between day and night. Here’s the sun
Here’s the moon and then he looked over and he said it’s good now y’all got to help me preach. This he said it’s
Okay
Then he made the sea creatures willie nemo. He made everybody in that moment
He looked at all of them, and he said it’s good then he made the wild animal animal
Simba Pumpa Timon he made all of them, and he looked back, and he said it’s good
Look at Genesis Chapter 2 verse 18
then the Lord God said
After he made man. It’s not good
Now hold on we’ve had six days
of
I mean perfect I
Mean good, it’s good
everything’s good and
And after he makes man in
His image in his likeness ben. He looks up at now he’s God all by
himself
Doesn’t need nobody else who would know it’s a mess-up
I mean who actually was there to say you messed up like how how?
How did he even get to the place that it’s not good unless he knew something about us that we didn’t even know
So then the Lord God said it’s not good for man to be
So he said I’m going to make a helper who is just right for him
My first point today is God wants a relationship for you
like
Some of y’all came in here
it’s like that’s all don’t come to church because I just don’t like people and I just
Really don’t understand why guy every month everybody say hello and everybody wants to be in my face
And we need to greet our neighbors, and I want to work from home
And I really want to take online courses because I don’t want to meet people and all this listen. That’s not god’s intent for you
God created you to be in relationship with others and all the introverts are like I hate this church, but this is
This is what I want to tell you, but it’s a mate on the inside of you that
God created you to be in relationship and not that he’s just like that’s a good option. He said it’s not good
It’s not a good idea for you to set up a life that is
Guarded gated by yourself isolated because it’s where the enemy comes to attack
When you’re isolated in your thoughts, you’re isolated in your relationships. You’re isolated in your dealings. That’s where the enemy becomes your best friend
But he’ll suggest he’ll whisper and he’ll tell you who you are
That’s not who you are he will begin to convince you that you can’t and you really can do
You know the enemy’s native tongue is lie
So if you ever hear anything that goes against the word of God guess what it is a lie
But how many of them do we believe?
How many of them do we?
Accept and we let them take root in our heart, and then they grow into things that stop us from reaching purpose and destiny
And what God is saying if you have somebody around you they could plug those things on be like whoa. What is that?
You’re not fat. You’re just husky
Don’t believe the lie of the enemy
But just think about why can never and I will never and I won’t and you just need somebody around you to help
And so I just wanted everybody to know which is not really where I want to stay today
But I just need you to understand that God wants
Relationship for you somebody just say that God wants relationship for me
That’s healing for somebody no. No you need to say it again. God wants relationship for me
He does want you to have a best friend
Even though the last woman left you high and dry
No, he wants you to have a safe place. No, I’m I’m ministering healing to somebody right now
God wants you to find a pastor or a leader that can guide you and help?
I know the last one huge g up and didn’t appreciate you at all, but God wants relationship for you
He wants you to be in a marriage that works
That is surrounded by love honor respect and fun the first three I know
But my God is a redeemer
Our God is a redeemer. So whatever was broken. Whatever was messed up. Whatever was jacked up. God says
I’ll take all of that. If you allow me to and I work it for your good
So God wants relationship for you okay? So as we start looking at that. I know you know this but
ecclesiastes 4 9 says that two people are better than one so
We’ll just leave it there you can read the rest of that on your own time
But I just want you to realize that two of y’all are better than you
Who are you linked up with who has God linked you up with?
Because when you find those people you’ll be better
Okay, Lord. I have to read the rest of it. Okay for they can help each other succeed
Who doesn’t want that two are better than one?
Because they can help each other succeed if one person falls, how many people have fallen at some point in your life?
Me more than I want to admit
But listen if one person falls the other can reach out and help
Maybe I’ll talk about this next week
but you can tell if your relationship is from God just
By the qualification does that relationship help you?
They miss me
you can tell
that if this fool you messin with
It’s supposed to be in your life if this relationship is
Helping you
We tolerate more relationships
That are taking away from us that are stealing our pieces that are ravaging our joy that have us up Emma
Oh my God. I think he’s gonna break up break up with him
He is not helping you
She’s not helping them our friends. They are fly. They are fake they are not
Helping you
So so it doesn’t take a word from God if the people you around keeping you stuck to your chains
They’re not if you’re praying that God will remove symptoms of the people that you hang around
they’re not helping you and
God wants every relationship in your life. He was one of your goals to be that the relationships help, you succeed
okay, so
God wants a relationship with you first and
Then he wants a relationship for you with others, and I don’t know why in church
I it’s one of those things that is just like one of my pet peeves gets on my last nerve that
Everybody Act like relationships are like Bobby boucher is Mama the devil. You ever seen the Waterboy and
She says everything is the devil
You some of y’all ain’t seen that movie you’re not going to get it but but she thinks everything is the devil. Yes
Foosball that foosball is the devil so you meant football girls are the devil many people make you feel like relationship with others especially
relationships with the opposite Sex are the devil
They’re not the devil, but relationships where the purpose is not known
Open the door
to the Devil
and
So I came to the conclusion that if we know the purpose for relationship
Then we won’t allow for the cracks
That let him into our relationships, and so I want us to look at this
Because I think that God designed in order for your relationships to be successful. I
Think that he laid out. I mean because my God is really good he wants us to win
He wants us to succeed at relationship, so I think he laid out in order that every relationship
That we ever have whether it be friendship whether it be marriage wear it be business partners
Whatever it can succeed
And he gave it to us in the second chapter of Genesis and a lot of us just skip over it
So I want us to read this passage of scripture
we’re going to read Genesis 2 verse 8 then we’re going to skip down to
15 and then we’re going to see God speak to us this morning
It says genesis chapter 2 verse 8 it says been the lord. God planted a garden in Eden it was in the east and
There he placed the man underlying placed
The Lord placed the man he had made underline made
Verse 9 the Lord God made all sorts of trees. Go up from the ground trees that were beautiful and that produced
delicious fruit underlined the word produced
So he placed he made he produced in
the middle of the Garden
He placed the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil jump down to verse 15
He said now he’s going to give us the reason that he placed man in the Garden the Lord
God placed the man in the garden of Eden
To tend and watch over it. So just underline tend and watch
But the Lord God warned him you may freely eat
every fruit in the Garden
except everybody just say except
Just bow that just draw a circle and some arrows
Except the tree of the knowledge of good and evil if you eat that fruit. You are surely going to die
Then this is where we find. I want everybody to get this now in progression
I skipped ahead and gave you verse to verse 18 early Earth
It is not good for man to be alone all this was said
And then this is where this verse comes in then the lord. God said you know what?
It’s not good for a man to be alone. I’ll make a helper who is just right for him
the title of this message is before the person I
Think there are five things that God wanted to give all of us before he gave us the person I
Think he just outlined for all of us
That there’s some things that he wants to deposit into our life before anybody partners with us
See because what we do many times is we look for people to take the place of what only God can give us
and
He laid out a really clear foundation, so I’m gonna run through these and I hope I mean
I hope you grab one of them and just catch it and be like my relationships will never be the same
What’s the first thing that God desires to give you before he gives you a person he desires to give you a place
Not just your 400 score apartment. That’s not exactly what I was talking about okay, but but but what I am saying is
God desires
to place you in
A place where she knows purpose can happen in your life
Okay, now let me help you many of us desire to place ourselves
Especially in my generation I have so many people that come up to me and say I’m about to move to here
About to move to La I’m doctor move to New York. I’m about to move to Dallas. I’m about the mu2, Oklahoma City
I’m about to move I’m about to move. I’m about the move they’re searching for a place
And they’re searching for people to validate the place that they’re in
But what what God gave Adam was a place that he didn’t have anything to do it
He said God created Eden and he placed him
See what you think is the coincidence is God’s placement for you?
He placed you in that family they crazy, but there’s some things that God had to teach you
There’s some things that he had to develop on the inside of you
There’s some things you had to build up a tolerance
Against for the purpose that he has called you to and we fight the place so hard oh
Come on. Y’all we fight the job that God placed us in oh
I’m coming in to y’all now
We fight the people God placed us around
We fight the church he planted us in
Well, they don’t do it like that. They don’t play my songs they don’t do what I knew I like the more like
And they want a little woo, and I decide I don’t know and God said maybe you’re an answer
For something that’s supposed to happen that I see up ahead, but you’re fighting the place
that I push you know can I talk to my college students for a second he placed you at the
school year at
Yeah, I know all your other friends went there, and I know all your other people went there
But God he’s the one over promotions. He’s the one over access granted or access denied, and he placed you
You may not see it. I don’t didn’t see
Why she was in that place when he got there?
But this is the most beautiful thing the second thing that God reveals in a place is purpose
See it said that he put him in eden to tend and work
the vegetation the land
See what people are missing is they’re trying to get a person they’re ignoring the place and so they don’t understand their purpose
God got you in that place on
purpose
But if you’re always denying the place, I hate this job
And God saying I’m trying to reveal purpose at that job only I know you only make $10 an hour
But I’m trying to reveal who I called you to be
There’s something at this level you gotta get I know it doesn’t keep working here
But you got to get it right here
Because if you would embrace the place God has placed you you’ll start embracing the purpose why he puts you there?
And guess what this is all before a person
so God
Takes Adam before Eve
He plants him and eden he I want y’all to get the the strength of the word I’m saying he placed him
This was not an option
There’s some situation. God puts you in
That it seems like I’m just between a rock and a hard place
Why am I here has anybody been at that plate like why am I keep?
And the only thing that I I can come to the conclusion of is that if I’m here and it’s uncomfortable. It’s for my growth
because uncomfortability and growth are like oil and water they don’t go together, so
when you’re uncomfortable, and you can’t stand the place you are god’s trying to pull back purpose in your life and
Adam
Started working in purpose before he ever got a person
So what I’m saying to you. Is that why you’re looking for him or looking for her
God’s trying to reveal to you. Why he has you her?
That’s my ebonics. Let me say it right
While God is
while you’re trying to
Figure out what’s going on with him or what’s going on with her. God is trying to show you why he’s placed you here
and
until you stop fighting
Having people in the places that only God can feel
She will always be disappointed
with where God has you
always
So the first thing God gave Adam was a place then he gave Adam a purpose
And then I want you to see this other part
And this really to me is awesome because um this kinda is an indicator if God’s in your place
Or your purpose he gave provision
That’s so so. I want y’all to see it cuz some of y’all. Don’t believe me
He gave provision verse 9. He said the lord. God made all sorts of trees grow up who made him grow up
So if you have to go and position yourself to provide for what God has called to do. It’s not him
He supplies where he calls us to
It’s the point-blank period of walking by Faith, but God only funds his ideas
Some of y’all. Just got your access denied to your plan well
God
I thought this was what’s gonna happen and I came away with this after I listen to
Oceans, and this was the plan that you gave me and I only fund my plan
I’ll listen to you pray about yours
But I only provide for mine
so
If you’ve been in a season for a long time
And you’re trying to provide for that it just seems like there’s never enough
And my God is not going through and it ain’t like I’m always right here
You may need to go back and check and see if you’re in the right place
That you’re fulfilling purpose
Because God makes provision Growth
wherever he is and
Remember, this is all before a perfect
So so so he gives him
What’s the first one a place?
Then he gave him
purpose and then he provided
provision now watch this
then
He gave him identity
Let me help you he says
he says in verse eight he placed the man that he made he had made and
If you go back to genesis 1:26, we find out how man was made?
He was God said let us make man in
our image to be like who the world
Kanye and Kim
Whoo-hoo, he made us to be like him
So if your identity who you think you are your character your personality?
All of those things are being defined by anybody else, but God
You have a mis view of who you’re supposed to be
And this is the enemy’s number one tactic for you is to have you not know who you are
The enemy is not scared of a faker
He’s not scared of somebody who’s posing to be somebody else. He’s not scared of a fake a
Counterfeit he’s scared of you finding your purpose know of who you are not caring what anybody else is doing her obeying God?
Flat-footed and standing and who you’ve created you to be
And why then is the age of this world always trying to get us to compare to what somebody else is?
Because if I can throw you off that your genes aren’t tight enough
Or you don’t have a house like this or your ministry is not big enough
Or your family is kind of ugly
So don’t post pictures about them and all of these other different things that we are always comparing and trying to see it gets us
Off of our identity let me tell you this one story that
I had seen
some guys who were preaching and they were successful and where I thought I wanted to be and
I’m not going to say who and where when how?
But I saw this one preacher in this outfit that I thought was cool, and I was struggling with my identity
See God had already called me something, but I wanted to change my name I
Wanted to start looking like somebody else, so I went to the store where this person allegedly
Got this outfit from and I forgot that I got thighs
and a booty and um
and
At the time I had a little more of a gut
Put on the largest size in all of these
items and looked in the mirror and
I literally felt like an idiot
looking like cuz I knew who I was
but I had put myself in the position thinking I could look like somebody else and it made me look like an idiot I
Looked at myself in that mirror trying to suck everything
I I was so tight y’all my core my legs my everything else understand. I still just look like a
sausage
And what I realized at that moment. This is a very small example
But what I realized at that moment is that I can never be completely comfortable in the identity of somebody who’s not me I?
will always be trying to curtail and
Be and God, this is a beautiful thing you don’t have to guess what your identity is
He’s giving you an identity
You’re a king’s kid
You’re joint heirs with Criteria
There is nothing that is impossible for you because of christ who lives inside of you you are the head and not the tail
You are above only and not beneath when you walk into a room
Mountain start to move either you believe it or you don’t either you’ve accepted
Somebody else’s identity or you know who you are in Christ. I did somebody
to stop accepting
But somebody who didn’t know their identity told you
How you don’t believe somebody who don’t know who they are so?
That’s why I go back to the thing that doesn’t change I
Go back to the word of God
but I heard this one saying that if you don’t know who you are or
If you don’t stand for something you’ll fall for anything y’all y’all heard that one the problem
is that most believers have not been in the book enough to be able to find out their
Identity so people tell you who your identity is on Facebook instagram?
Business meetings and all this other stuff and you take on that perception and God says don’t believe a lot
Don’t believe it. I created you like that on purpose that little kourt
I’m going to use that to change people’s lives a little thing that everybody’s telling you is just a little you’re just a little oh
What’s wrong with you?
Just a few burritos sure it’s abajo combo
That that’s the thing that God wants to use to touch more people who are missing some burritos. They understand what I’m saying
God wants to use all of you
He wants to use every part of you, but you have to know your identity is confirmed and affirmed in him
And that’s that’s what God gave to Adam before a person
Okay, so so let me tell you the last thing we got four of them okay. So what’s the first one he gave Adam?
he gave him a place then he gave them and
Then he gave them
then he gave them and
Then he gave them parameters oh
oh
Look at it. He said
verse verse
16 but the Lord God warned Him
You may freely eat?
Not now freely eat. I love you. Dad that is I could say anything. He said he showed you telling me
Gimme Say it
Y’all TV and feed right here put forever
now watch
Watch watch watch. He said you can freely eat of the fruit of
Every tree in the Garden, but what but watch what what?
except
Now what most what the world will tell you is how can a loving God?
Why would a why we’re gracious love means?
all-Powerful, God
That may make there be lemon
what what why why is there an accept because he loves you and
Any good parent knows that if you don’t set limitations on your children
They’re not going to hurt themselves on purpose
But they’re going to hurt themselves
Because of what’s around we got gates in our house because I got a three year old in a two year old
We understand what I’m saying and many believers are spiritually immature
and
So without parameters now just think about it every tree except
Like this wasn’t like there’s only two trees
Like Beyond this time. I’ll say it wasn’t just this tree or this tree and as I went on well
I really he said every other tree
but he gave them parameters and
He gave him parameters before a person
because if you don’t have a standard
if you don’t have a standard
before you get in relationships
the relationships will create the standard that you live by and
Why so many people are hurt by relationships is because they did not listen to the parameters
that God gave
for purity
for accountability
For being honest and open we didn’t listen to the parameters and so we get into the relationship
Can we let that define what this feel good don’t it feel good to you. Thank you for giving me?
Lan nine months later, why
Because we we did not
have per limp and watch this and
two are better than one at
everything even
messing up, so
If I don’t have a standard and I get with somebody that don’t have low standard guess what we got to do
Create a hot to mess. Do you understand what I’m saying okay?
But I want you to understand that these five things God gave
Before he ever gave a person and I hear some of y’all first corinthians 10
This is just need to add this for you paul helps us he say well. I’m allowed to do anything
But not everything is good for you
And you say I’m allowed to do anything under grace under under the curse that has me unless fear
But then he says not everything is beneficial
The real power of living a mature Christian life is when you know you can and you don’t have to
like like like like the real power of
being
Secure because I know my identity and I know I’m in the right place, and I know I’m moving in purpose
And I understand what I’m doing before a person. It’s that I can do whatever yeah, I could go dream
Yeah, I could go. Yeah, I could go talk to them. Yeah
I could start up some relationship online with some random person in New Zealand
But I don’t need a rule anymore to tell me that
Because I’ve been freed
By the love relationship. I have with God
But some things you only learn when they first start off as parameters
My daughter knows now not to run into the street because we set that parameter
Now that she knows how to look out for cars and watch out for stuff now
I’m walking if she said that guy oh, no, no
Hold my hand
See what I once taught her. She’s now reminding me
Because the the wall of a mature believer is you set those parameters?
and then you walk with somebody even somebody who’s even younger than you in the face and they remind you of the
Parameters that are set to keep us safe
Now hear me all of these things God gave
a person and
what we think is that people can take us to the place we want to go and
People can give us what we need provision and people can tell us who we are
Identity and people can give us purpose and people can set our parameters, but there is only one person who?
can
real and has
everything you need and that’s God I
Want to show you this?
As we leave you just think about all the relationships you have in your life
You think about people you come in contact with this little orange ball represents people?
like how many times we go to school and we meet people and they
tell us our genes aren’t cool and
the teacher tells us that we learn a little funny and we have a brother that picks on us because
Cheese has a problem with his own identity and then we get a little older, and then we like allow people
To tell us, you should go to this school
And you should be around these people and you should you should stay around him a if you want to really succeed
You should you should be around them and then we we come into our adult lifes
And we look at what we should have by 19 and what we should have by 20
Come on some of y’all are those like I’m 24. I should about how I should have a car
I should have kids come on. How many of us have looked at our lives and said we should be here
Why?
because of what people
have said and
You start to look at your whole life and you start to see what others are doing and you look at Instagram?
And you look at Facebook and you see and you know people leave
but what happens is this is our vessel and
What’s filling us is?
What other people?
Have told us
We should be
If this container represented our lives in those five areas the place
We’re supposed to be our purpose provision
Identity the parameters we’ve let Society the world
others fill us up
but then when I look at the word
Second Peter 1:3 it says by his divine power
By God’s Divine power
God has already given us
everything we need I
Want you? I want you to see those two words everything we need
for living a godly life
Of as am I cuz I know they’re still stuff. I’m struggling with let me tell you when he gave it to you
when you received
All of this by coming to know him
See pastor mike I got all these people’s opinions. I got all this other stuff. How do I get this out by coming to know?
before a person if
You get to know the creator
He’ll begin to feel all the areas that are filled by people’s opinions attitudes
And relationship I see some married people. I do not know these steps before I married her
So Mike. I’m sitting here and I
see
Somebody I laughed too hard
Let’s straight. Look straight. Okay. What I’m saying is
All you have to do
to see God
Start to move things that have been in your life out is
Spend more time with him
How do you do that Faster Mike through the word?
Finding out your place your purpose your identity the parameters by prayer
Talking to him letting them talk back to you by accountability and small groups. Hey, we’re signing up for these b
Groups today, not just so we can have friends
We’re signing up for these V groups because the bible tells us. This is how we get healed
like some of us are dealing with real issues and James tells us to confess those things one to another pray for each other and
That’s how you get healing some of y’all. Come up here every Sunday for healing, but if you got a community group, you’d get healing
If you get real healing because it’s not in need just laying my hands on you
It’s in you being able to release that and you see in God’s church not the organization, but the organisms
Surrounds you in love and help you be free. I’m encouraging every person today. I don’t like people
I’ve never signed up for a group. It’s not good
Okay
So I dare you to get in a small group
Because when you allow more God in can you bring me?
that the pure water of the Lord
Now just put that one down. Thank you. So this is this is what living water looks like God
I’m just going to start reading my word every day and
It doesn’t feel like anything’s happening
It doesn’t feel like anything changed
It just feels a little juicy on Sunday
but real dry throughout the week, but
Anything that is worth doing is worth doing
continually and
So that’s why you have to get the discipline and you know there’s some point that the things in our life
That have been defining us
it starts to be
overtaken see where my identity was
from people it starts to become
Defined by God
for what happens when we are better than we used to be and
We stop letting God
pour into our life
What we look like is lukewarm
So I can post anything on insta stories because I don’t have my identity
required
and it’s my birthday so I can go while out and
And you know I’m I’m financial stress so I can drink because this is what I do to release
But God is good. Hey all the time and all the time. God is a and he may delay
But from afar, what’s more visible?
well
From back, I mean if I was to take somebody to the end of the parking line say, what do you see?
They may not even know there’s anything in here
All they would see is these orange balls
The same way that they see
our inconsistencies
and I are being hypocritical then they see our flesh and
What God says you don’t have to feel judged by that?
just keep pouring me over it just
Just keep coming to church just get into small Gupta just allow me to overtake you and Overrun everything
now watch
This is my favorite part. This is my favorite part
I said this is the favorite part this is my favorite when the lies come back
They only can stay on the surface
look see
Rick when you’re filled up with God
When the enemy comes to lie to you that you’re not
something and you can’t do something and you will never be I
don’t care how much I try
They can’t it can’t stick I
Came to encourage somebody
Allow God to put you in a place allow him to give you a purpose allow him to define your identity
allow him to be your provision allows him talk set your parameters and
Allow him to fill you up
Because when he does it
Nothing the enemy throws at you will be able to take root somebody give God praise in this way
Come on. If you’re going to allow God to filled you up. I want you to give God a praise in this place
hallelujah
hear me
Y’all be seated hear me
healings happening right now all over this building
There’s some of you that that you’re understanding why?
God has not been holding back the relationship from you
He’s the bible tells us that he’s merciful and patient
He wished that no one we lost
So he’s not been holding it from you. He’s been holding it back for you. Oh
See God why am I 35 and 40 and I’m not he’s been holding it that business partner. You’ve been trying to con
To be your partner. God said no no no no no because they have some things in them
That I don’t want to become your identity
So until you let me fill it up. I can’t release them to come because they can come when you’re filled
Because whatever they try to drop it stays on the surface and you get a friend or a wife see my wife is the ones
You know like what is that?
know that your attitude ah
You don’t dress like that. You know you don’t do that. See that’s why it’s good for you not to be alone
But somebody else can come in and be like no, I’m not them
but
that only can happen when you’re filled I
want you to understand that we’re going to talk about dating in sex and marriage and all those other things, but
My last point is that if God’s not enough?
no person
ever will be
Like like if he doesn’t feel because what we do myles monroe said I say it all the time
Where the purpose of a thing is not not?
Abuse is inevitable
May I submit to you that many of us have been trying to put people in
the place of
identity
purpose
Parameters, and so they get abused and you get disappointed
Because they were never meant to go there
He gave all of these things and then said hmm now that I’ve filled all of those places. Well, it’s not good
With all of that, it’s not good for you to be alone
and
So he made a helper just right
Frank I’m here to encourage you that there are people friendships relationships business partners that are just
for you
You gotta allow him to fill it up first father. I pray for every person
Under the sound of my voice forgive us. God
forgive me
God for allowing people to fill the place that only you can feel God
I know we have all of these relationship goals, but God our first goal should be knowing who we are in you
God, I just thank you that you are giving us
The ability to be okay with the place. You’ve put us in
How do we understand God that you have a purpose for us?
God, and we will know our identity and you as you make provision for us
God, and we listen and obey and observe the parameters that you’ve given us father. God
I pray for every person who this word is really trying to penetrate their heart and pull back
Lifestyles that they’ve accepted. God. I thank you that you do the deep work, holy spirit
You’re the one that illuminates and changes us from the inside out. God
I’m asking you to do it in me and I’m asking you to do it in every person as listening
God, we trust you we believe you and we thank you father
God that you’re going to fill us up come on
Somebody just tell God fill me up fill fill me up father feel my identity feel my purpose fill me up
God, and we will be sure to give you the glory honor and praise and thank you
When the people or the person comes, but father let us be content in what you do in our lives before the person in
Jesus name amen
Let’s give. God some praise in this place

100 thoughts on “Before The Person :: Relationship Goals (Part 1)

  1. I would like to seek advice from someone, I’m 16 years old and currently struggling with an idol. A few months ago I found out about the boyband BTS and it’s taken over my life, I’m just so obsessed with them that I want to watch them 24/7 and do nothing else, I used to be on fire for God but now I’m not even interested anymore, I still try to force myself to pray and read my bible but I feel like I’m doing it in vain, I tried not watching BTS for a while but I failed miserably, they are just so charming and admirable that I want to watch them all the time. First thing on my mind when I wake up is them. I find myself wanting to keep up with everything their doin, I know I need to stop but I just can’t. I make up scenerios in my head about them that I know will never happen, I dream of dating them one day which I KNOW IS IMPOSSIBLE but once again I just can’t stop. It’s to the point where in not interested in any other guys but the members and it scares me because what if the right one comes along one day and I push them away because of my stupid obsession. What if I’m not attracted to the person God has for me because they may not look like the boys in BTS, I hate being this way, Most importantly I’m losing such a good relationship that I had with God, I sometimes wish I can go back to when I didn’t know about them. Just an innocent crush has turned into way much more than it should. I’m scared that if I don’t quickly get over this obsession when the boys actually do find girlfriends I will be heartbroken beyond measure, please don’t judge me. I’m seeking help

  2. I literally prayed for the things you said and after a few minutes this message came on tv and you just answered it all. God bless you sir for being an answer to a prayer.

  3. Very true I have tried to have relationship but never had good aime and goals in a godly way I'm now finding out the this is the right way and the way I was doing it was the wrong way I'm going to have a godly relationship and goals 😊😊😍😍

  4. I would like to seek advice from someone, I’m 16 years old and currently struggling with an idol. A few months ago I found out about the boyband BTS and it’s taken over my life, I’m just so obsessed with them that I want to watch them 24/7 and do nothing else, I used to be on fire for God but now I’m not even interested anymore, I still try to force myself to pray and read my bible but I feel like I’m doing it in vain, I tried not watching BTS for a while but I failed miserably, they are just so charming and admirable that I want to watch them all the time. First thing on my mind when I wake up is them. I find myself wanting to keep up with everything their doin, I know I need to stop but I just can’t. I make up scenerios in my head about them that I know will never happen, I dream of dating them one day which I KNOW IS IMPOSSIBLE but once again I just can’t stop. It’s to the point where in not interested in any other guys but the members and it scares me because what if the right one comes along one day and I push them away because of my stupid obsession. What if I’m not attracted to the person God has for me because they may not look like the boys in BTS, I hate being this way, Most importantly I’m losing such a good relationship that I had with God, I sometimes wish I can go back to when I didn’t know about them. Just an innocent crush has turned into way much more than it should. I’m scared that if I don’t quickly get over this obsession when the boys actually do find girlfriends I will be heartbroken beyond measure, please don’t judge me. I’m seeking help

  5. Watching this for the second time in a long time..and I feel this on a whole different level. Thank YOU Lord for this and also for Ps. Mike!

  6. God knew I needed this message again! It hit me differently tonight than the other times I watched it in 2018.

  7. I am so happy my Christian friend recommended me to watch sermons because I needed to hear this, bless everyone ✝️😊

  8. I’ve been praying for clarity after a messy breakup and I landed on your page. I watched you on Switch first and I had to look you up for more talks. I’m sharing this to my kids as early as now. I can’t wait to finish the series. God bless you!

  9. Listening to these messages has revealed how out of place I’ve been for a looong time 😔 God please restore the time🙏🏾

  10. If you get trapped in an unhealthy relationship, you simply are off to falls over and over again. https://mysocietyview.com/single-life/

  11. ALWAYS RIGHT ON TIME…I’ve been trying to fill all the places in my life and within myself with people who are not God. If i focus on him and allow him to fill me up there is nothing that can stick to me that isn’t provided and or funded by god 🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾 place, purpose, provision, identity and parameters…

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  13. Amen I needed this word. In a world of relationship goals, people worried about likes and comments on social media, I just want to draw closer to God. 💝🙏🏾

  14. This message really speaks to me a lot. I am moved to have relationship goals first with my Father Almighty who loved me first. Thank you God for revelations and enlightenment. 😇🥰

  15. "Does it help you ,is it fake or you just having fun in this generation???😑 ,don't take any advantage of someone's heart ♥ God loves more than people do😄you don't have to force yourself into someone God has great plans not for evil 😈 but for right ☞ destiny 😢😢""AMEN😅😅😅

  16. God works in incredible ways. I was just crying because i was confused and didn’t know what to do with the relationship i have with the current person I am in dealings with. I texted one of my good friends for advice b/c he gives me great advice on a lot (mind you, I never do this I tend to deal with things on my own) but my feelings were overwhelming when I woke up this morning. Anyway, I told him I would text him later because he had work and i cried even more. I decided to go on youtube and came across this LOVELY video. God has proven time and time again he has my back. Even if you feel alone right now guys, know God is in your corner even when you don’t see it yet ❤️.

  17. I feel like Pastor Mike been talking to my therapist! I'm an introvert who works from home & NEVER wanna leave the house or be around people! But that's impossible because he recorded this 2 years ago…. timing!

  18. Why micheal say 'my God' ?????
    So we not connected?
    We not brothers and sisters?
    He preach like we under one tent but then he say. ' my God' makes me watch everything he say so he dont twist the words of OUR God

    Unless he uncertain of the audience some might be attending and they might have different Gods bc they was invited by a friend maybe (positiveway of looking at)

    Be why?

  19. I am dating this man. Well he is my boyfriend. Before it all start he has been astray with God for so long. I encouraged him to draw near to God. And he prayed for a Christian Woman for so long until I came. The night he kissed my forehead I felt something different, told God if it isn't for marriage please stop it now. like now. And since that day I have been praying to God that it really i for marriage. His my first boyfriend ever. And then he has been draw near to God more as months went by. And as for me I got weary with my relationship with God I struggled a lot and we fought. Now I am back with my relationship with God. Praying to God always about the two of us. He is now far away and now we're on LDR. We fought few weeks ago his relationship with God has not been good again. There are no church on the place he works. and I told God. Please tell me Lord to give up. please say yes. And then I keep seeing now. thrice or more then the next thing I will be able to read on the bible is how great are the signs and wonders of God. and then when I say to God Lord Okay I will follow you then God would say Yes and wait for me to settle this if not wait for God. Be still.
    I know God has been telling me what to do so many times but why do I always doubt? I Told God, we have talked about this before God this is for Marriage, so please work on this for me. I keep sending him verses and encourage him. But I somehow still doubt God. I know this is not what God wants me to think. and this morning I asked God you promised me God. then I have read on the bible 3 times about his promises he will fulfill it. be still wait quitely. I will remain faithfull to God. I know that the lie of the enemy is just giving me thoughts that would ruin my relationship. God has been guiding me well but the devil is just trying to destroy my mind and us. I always pray for him that he will always seek God. And as for me I pray that I will become a strong woman. I have been praying more, spend more time with God ever since he has been away from me. I have been reaching him out more. reminding him how God has been good to him for giving him the Job he has dreamed for so long.

  20. Off to check part 2 after finishing this,watching this on a sunday after deciding not to go to church maybe this was the surmone i really needed to hear today

  21. This message really hit home bc all these 5 things have been areas I've been struggling with and the reason I even started watching the video was bc I was looking for what it meant to be in a relationship but I never thought that God would speak to me to heal my heart of the issues and anger I had bunched inside me towards him after believing he was being unfair but this really brought healing to me. It honestly made me cry a few times bc it felt like the preacher was talking to me and I know that only bc of God. I just hope that this church keeps getting blessed and that God can show how grateful I am for this wonderful message. God Bless and Thank you

  22. THIS IS SO LIFE CHANGING! I applied to two Universities, which one of them I honestly do not want to attend BUT after watching this I realized that I should trust GOD and allow HIM to PLACE me wherever he wants me to be PLACED so that he can show me my PURPOSE! (…and the rest will follow)

    to GOD be the glory!!

  23. Don't convince yourself that your relationship is right.
    Be selfless and put GOD in control.
    Nothing's getting better without GOD because Matthew 6:33 says "seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you"

  24. D is now on all attempts to construct a false t. All artificial crossings are blocked. The cross has been terminated and replaced for associations and activity with Satan including films which are encapsulated activity meaning they use spiritual activity to record the movies but the actions are recorded in the movie. Perception of that is limited to the spirit. It was a person just so were clear and the activities include those used against Jesus himself who was a…dog in the brown but from the red. The bible is written for those in the brown dimension mostly the intent is crossing up to other dimensions for less attacks and a better life.

    This is locked for those currently though possible if you pay off your sins and don't make union. You can cross at his discretion though typically it takes 3 months of spiritual work to go up. Meaning killing demons spiritually for 3 months means you cross upwards in place no new life just an upgrade and change of dimension. From what I was told.

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